Lesson #11: Please Wait Your Turn…

by Annie on May 26, 2011

Standing in line, anywhere really, but let’s say at the pharmacy, be aware of your surroundings. Almost as a guarantee there will be a little old lady inside standing off to the side of the counter, appearing to be looking for something. You’ll get in line to claim your medication and all of the sudden the little old lady is inching closer, touching you almost. Before you know it you’ll be staring straight at her back.

I generally find myself completely baffled, at a loss for words in this situation. Based on the way that she was inching her way around me, I can only assume she thought she was being sneaky. The only problem? Her little trick would only have been sneaky had I been blind! Is it so common to simply not notice a new person standing directly in front of you? I don’t know if they think they can get away with it because they are pushing ninety or if they just think that they deserve to go first, all the time. Either way, that doesn’t fly in my book.

Now, of course there is some assimilation that needs to take place when you decide to live in a different country, you have to accept the fact that all the norms and comforts aren’t necessarily going to be there. However, there comes a time (quite often) when I find myself answering explanations of how I should act with, “hmph, allora, non sono Italiana.” Smile. In other words, wait your turn lady!

waiting patiently in line

Wouldn’t this be nice? Creative Commons credit: simonhn

On the other side of this very interesting little coin, we have the overeager, can’t wait to get in line Italians. You’ll find them at the boarding gates of Ryanair flights.

If you ever find yourself taking a Ryanair flight out of Italy keep a close eye on the boarding gate. Often, in my experience Ryanair flights are delayed, but that doesn’t seem to stop the Italians from fighting to be the first on board. No less than one hour before the flight you’ll find a line-up of Italian passengers, patiently waiting to claim their seats onboard. It shocks me that they’ll stand there for hours if need be, just to ensure that they get to sit together on the short flight.

When we flew to Alicante last summer, our flight was delayed over two hours and nothing could deter the line from being formed. I sat happily in the free seats enjoying a book while they stood waiting on their weary legs. Lorenzo and I keep our eyes open for this mad rush to board the plane and then we enjoy watching as everyone is vying for a seat, while we rest our legs and continue reading our books. Often among the last few to get on the plane, in only one case have we been forced to sit separate from each other and even then only in the two seats across the isle from each other.

Have you dealt with any interesting waiting games in a foreign country? What about the mass chaos that ensues when lines are required?

 

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  • http://twitter.com/OdysseusDrifts Melanie Ehler

    Funny stories about Italy! But in my opinion, China and Korea have the most blatantly horrible line cutters. I usually just accept it, especially when it’s older people cutting — but if I’m having a really rough day, I’ll cut in the front of a line myself. Self-administered kharma. ;)

  • http://www.tourabsurd.com Katrina

    I have not noticed the little old lady paradigm, but I have certainly witnessed the RyanAir/Easyjet craziness!  I think you said you’d seen the little cartoon video about life in Italy, but I might need to go dig it up and link it here for anyone who hasn’t. [Edit: http://www.lifeinitaly.com/flash ]

    I knew an American lady back in Naples who used to say that Italians were always in a hurry to get somewhere — she was talking about driving — “Rush, rush, rush — and for what?  To go do nothing!”  Hahaha!  I think it’s all about how we measure what’s important.  I can actually see the logic of wanting to get the hell off the road and into a bar to sip coffee with your friends, nice and easy.  But then, I enjoyed the driving in Italy, too, so my opinion is not to be trusted.  ;)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Georgette-Jupe/519377065 Georgette Jupe

    you have no idea how that is the bane of my existence, I am always getting cut in front of by old people, dogs, people with large bags.. now I just  throw a little “scusa, ero in fila, prima di te!” of course t-man excuses me of not standing in line correctly which apparently means I dont have barbed wire surrounding my body .. and good on your for waiting to board when all the crazies that rush to stand in line on ryanair depart..,i never understood that either

  • http://www.ordinarytraveler.com Christy @ Ordinary Traveler

    Ha! I completely forgot about how overeager everyone was to get on a flight in Italy. That’s hilarious. So did the little old lady step out of the line or did she just ignore you?

  • http://twitter.com/LLMilitaryWife VeteranMilitaryWife

    Germans don’t wait in line…they kind of gather close to the counter….if you don’t speak up for yourself and move forward when it’s your turn, then it’s your fault!  Remember, in Europe your sense of personal space is not as wide as in the US (once you get that, everything else will fall into place).

  • http://twitter.com/100Mileshighway Katherina

    I know those old ladies and Ryanair passengers – been there too many times… but I think the worst experience I had was in Lebanon. There is a particular kind of muslim woman (and I’m not stating that they’re all like that, cause I know some great exceptions myself)… that thinks that she just can do whatever she wants. We were waiting in a cave to visit the inside – standing in a long queue for more than half an hour… and three times did it happen that a group of them just simply pushed us away and ran through. 
    It was funny when my lebanese friend told them in arabic to calm down, we’re all waiting – they got hysterical! It’s really a cultural thing I guess – can’t wait to see all the queuing in the UK, hehe

  • http://blog.travelreportage.com Giulia

    :) I’m Italian and I know what you’re talking about! But being in airports very often, I see this almost everywhere, even outside of Italy. True though, that we don’t stay in line at post office, ticket booth etc.!
    Concerning the “fight to be the first on the plane”, I actually try to be the last. So when you get on the bus to the plane, it will start moving soon, and when you get on the plane there are not dozens of people blocking the way with their luggage.
    I was very surprised when I saw that Ryanair offered the “priority” service: basically you pay more to get on the plane first (and then wait forever for other people to arrive!)
    Oh well, anyway it works very well for me (and you as I can see), because if everyone waited to be the last, it would be even worse maybe. :)

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    I’m actually surprised to hear that about China and Korea (esp. judging on my photo!). I definitely do that too, or ‘bump’ into people that are hogging the sidewalk… but that’s another story!

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    That video was meant to be in this post! I forgot to add it, thank you for the link!

    In regard to your comment about Italians being in a hurry, I swear I’m the only one in a hurry in this city! haha. Everyone else is more than happy to zig zag around the city sidwalks, as slow as possible.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    You’re so nice about it, then again I am sure that you are intimidating enough when an Italian isn’t expecting to her their language coming out of your mouth! 

    You know the Ryanair thing also happens on the Eurostar getting off the train, they are standing at the door for the last 20 minutes just bursting to be the first out the door. I’ve even been cut in front of getting off the train, as if that was possible… haha.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    They generally won’t say anything if you step in front of them to rightfully take your turn, but they don’t seem to feel shame about cutting you off if you don’t stand up for yourself either!

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Really!? Germany always seemed so orderly to me. It’s nice to hear that other cultures are similar. I only poke fun at the Italians because I live with one and it’s fun but it’s always a good to know that there are other funny cultural differences out there! 

    The personal space this is still hard for me to deal with after more than a year. I always have to remind myself that it may be partially because the sidewalks here are half the size. 

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    That is an interesting thing to hear. From the sounds of it this is a common occurrence among many different cultures, maybe in the end it’s more about the kind of person than the culture… who knows! 

    I’m glad that your friend stood up for you guys, did it work out or did the ladies end up sneaking in first anyway?

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Well, I know that it is definitely not ALL Italians but I do find it funny (as I’m sure you do) that so many of them continue to get in line and wait for hours to get on the flight! You’re right that it’s better that they don’t all wait to the last minute and then try to cram out the gate at the last minute. 

    You’re smart about the bus! I actually never thought about it that way, I’ll keep it in mind! 

  • http://vagabond3.com Jade

    This is one of my biggest pet peeves! I get irate when people do this… and Bob just stands there laughing because he knows I’m going to get pissed about it! Don’t cut in line!!!! :)

  • http://twitter.com/_MarcJustin_ Marc Justin

    Two words: airport checkin.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    You would have been so pissed if you had been in line with me for a taxi today in Rome! There were these two women that came from the side and were trying to “look” and see something at the front and they stepped right in front of me. They were talking about calling a cab so I assumed they would do that and get out of my way but they interestingly enough kept “looking” while the line moved along. I just stepped directly in front of them and when we got to the front and a driver waved at me one pointed to him from next to me on the sidewalk and I stepped in front of her before walking over to him. 

    Maybe it was passive aggressive but if the person behind me doesn’t mind being cut then so be it! I wasn’t standing for it!

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Haha, airport anything in Italy is a joke!

  • http://inspiringtravellers.com/ Andrea and John

    In Argentina, the post office is a funny place to watch people literally “go postal.” We checked out two – one in Buenos Aires and one in Salta. In both instances, the lines were long and you’d see people jumping queue to go up to the window with “questions,” which sometimes seemed to be their entire reason for being there in the first place. And forget it in Argentina if a woman thinks you got in front of her (we did not cut any lines but had two different ladies lose their minds at us because they thought their number was before ours or that we’d jumped in line).

  • http://twitter.com/countryskipper Country Skipper

    So true! I was once waiting at a particularly long line to check in at FCO and this older Italian couple kept creeping up until they stood parallel to me… So, I said in a pretty normal tone that I was in line also. They didn’t really say anything, but stepped back a little. Then, the “lady” turned around to her boyfriend/husband and complained to him in Italian about me that of course she knew I was in line.. blablabla… Well, if you knew, then why are you trying to get in front of me? And keep bumping into me with your stupid luggage? So stupid!

  • http://theresnoplacelikeoz.com Heather

    I was at Heathrow in 2006 on my way home, and after some confusion about which queue to join for checking baggage, I hopped in line. Two elderly ladies soon joined me, and they (loudly) whispered ugly comments me about jumping the queue. When I turned around to state that I had been there for several minutes and apologized for their feeling upset, they raised their eyebrows at each other knowingly. “THEY are so pushy. THEY always have to get what they want.” They = Americans

    Eventually I grew tired of them being rude and causing a stink in line, so I picked another line altogether. Grr.

  • http://theresnoplacelikeoz.com Heather

    I was at Heathrow in 2006 on my way home, and after some confusion about which queue to join for checking baggage, I hopped in line. Two elderly ladies soon joined me, and they (loudly) whispered ugly comments me about jumping the queue. When I turned around to state that I had been there for several minutes and apologized for their feeling upset, they raised their eyebrows at each other knowingly. “THEY are so pushy. THEY always have to get what they want.” They = Americans

    Eventually I grew tired of them being rude and causing a stink in line, so I picked another line altogether. Grr.

  • http://www.thetravellerworldguide.com Hogga

    It can be so frustrating but you’re right, the norms and comforts are different. Alas, there’s a crapload of things that piss me off in Canada. Off the top of my head: People who don’t wave when I let them in on the highway, people who block a whole isle in the grocery store cause they cant decide if they want cheesy or extra cheesy KD, cyclists are just awful. . . the list goes on haha. 

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    The question thing bothers me because if I actually do just have a question (relevant to which line I should stand in for example) I feel really bad trying to ask it cause I hate when people cut in line! haha.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    The luggage too! Ugh. Sometimes they are just so unaware of their surroundings. Funny that you were the one ‘in the wrong’ haha, ohhh Italians.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    This comment makes me feel bad for always poking fun at the Italians because I don’t want to be stereotyped as a pushy American! 

    Were the ladies actually in the line already or just trying to cut you by saying you cut them?

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Haha, it’s so true, there are things everywhere. I get pretty bad road rage so the waving thing I can totally relate to!

  • Marion

    You are very right! The Dutch are the same in that way and they don’t believe in “waiting in lines”. When I was in England, not  aware of this “silent rule”, I had to learn this the hard way and got the “evil eye” when I got into a bus, totally obliviousof the line of people standing a bit away from the bus, patiently waiting. I now live in Australia and “lines” are very sacred here too!

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    I’m quite looking forward to the Australian line! :)

  • http://idrinkmyteasweet.com/ Abhijit

    Have you dealt with any interesting waiting games in a foreign country?

    Well, am from India. Should I answer: all my life? :)

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    There is madness in China and Africa. They have no lining up rules. I remember it being absolute chaos when boarding a bus in Zimbabwe. I usually just join in but this one for some reason was too much madness for me so the teacher in me jumped to the front and started directing everyone into a line and then put them on the bus orderly. It was much faster

  • http://twitter.com/jm_deluxe Justin Morris

    Living in the UK, you have to queue for everything. For the train in the morning, for a coffee, for lunch. Everything. But the queuing up for seats on a Ryanair/easyJet flight thing happens here too. At Gatwick you will see people all be told not to queue up yet, and then as soon as the announcement is made to board, people burst out of the rows of chairs and clamber to queue for that precious seat.

    I usually don’t care and wait like you do, but once I left it way too long and got on and had to stow my bag about 10 rows away from where I was sitting. This meant waiting AGES for everyone to disembark once we landed so I could go retrieve my bag. Low cost carriers = dicey.

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Hahaha at least you can take it with a grain of salt! :) Thanks for commenting Abhijit!

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    I’m surprised there are no line rules in China, I guess I assumed that the culture would be a bit more inclined to line up. You learn something new everyday! 

    Way to go Mrs. Makepeace (do your students call you that?)! Sounds like you got things in order! :)

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    I really don’t mind lines in every mentioned thing above except RyanAir! What gives man? Seriously, you’ll still get the seat, but I agree I have had to store my luggage billions of rows up a couple of times too.

  • http://yourenotfromaroundhere.com/blog/ swhale

    Queuing in line doesn’t appear to exist as a concept here in China, but people will grudgingly concede that you got there first.
    Initially I couldn’t understand the lack of personal space people will put up with, but have since learnt that if there’s a sliver of daylight between you and the person who got there before you, then you’re signalling that you’re no longer interested and someone will forcibly fit themselves in that gap, even if it’s only an inch or two wide…

  • http://waywardtraveller.com/ Annie

    Same in Italy! Whenever I participate in tourist activities anywhere, I always find that I have to remind myself that there are cultural differences in order to not get angry at every last person pushing me or breathing down my neck!

  • Sara

    Boarding a local bus at Nice airport to get to Antibes. As soon as the bus pulled up the organized line morphed into a mob toward the door- passing babies through windows, tossing suitcases over the crowd into the bus, etc. Took 3 boarding attempts for me to figure it out. If you can’t beat em, join em.

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